A Word on Divorce
Family Legal Counseling was founded to educate couples as well as individuals on what divorce really is. It is an option, rather than a requirement, when your marriage is facing extreme difficulty. In some cases, it may be the right option. In others, it is not. Even in those cases in which it is the right option, how do you know the right way to do it? The best way to determine if divorce is the option that is best for your marriage, is to educate yourself on the subject. To understand the process. To understand the aftermath, good or bad. This is the goal of Family Legal Counseling.
Percentages say that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. A quick google search of "divorce rate in America" will lead to slightly varying results. Some research suggests that 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 67% of second marriages, and 73% of third. Whatever research it is you decide to look at however, the end result usually comes out to life-long commitment being a coin flip.
The question for many of us is, why? It's difficult to believe that 50% of people say their wedding vows with the intention of breaking it off in a few years. It's difficult to believe that one of the two people standing at the altar is planning to have an affair down the road. But it happens to many of us. We're dangerously close to divorcees being the majority.
Almost all of us have been touched by divorce, whether it's from personal experience, family, or close friends. In fact, I challenge you to find someone, stranger or acquaintance, that does NOT know of a friend or family member who has gotten divorced. And yet with all of the divorce experience that is so close to all of us, how much do we really know about it?
I have had both the great luxury and great misfortune of becoming very familiar with the divorce process. Long before I had a law license, I witnessed my sister, as well as my niece, navigate through the divorce arena. Now that I am a licensed and practicing Attorney, I continue to witness the journey, only now from a much closer vantage point.
In practice, I have seen many people that have been wronged by their spouse. They want out, or they want a fresh start, or they want vindication. I have also seen many people in practice who have done wrong to their spouse. They want to minimize the damage, or they want to protect their assets, or they simply want to reverse the victim role. Whatever the motivation may be, people facing divorce hire a lawyer. Lawyers are students of, and have taken an oath to, the adversarial system. An adversary is an opponent. We are geared for a fight the moment we consult with a divorce lawyer.
If you are someone that is looking for some guidance in deciding which route is best for you, e-mail me here to set up a meeting.
I am not a marriage counselor, nor do I claim to be able to solve all of your marital troubles. I can't change your spouse's annoying habits, and I can't rectify what your spouse has done in the past. For that matter, I readily admit that I will not be able to control what you or your spouse chooses to do in the future.
What I am is an Attorney. I am licensed to practice law inside a Courtroom, and licensed to give legal advice outside the Courtroom. And while there are many Memphis Attorney's that are licensed to give legal advice, the difference lies in the motivation behind giving that advice.
In the State of Tennessee you can file for a divorce with or without some fault of your spouse. You can do it for a very justifiable reason or no reason at all. As Attorneys, we know this. And as Attorneys, some of us could care less. It could be the necessary course of action, or it could be the easiest and most ready course available.
The question that Family Legal Counseling stops to ask, is why do you want to get divorced? Divorce is not the last leg of pavement in a dead-end road. It is a road you choose. Again, sometimes it's necessary, and sometimes you're forced down that road the minute you step into a lawyer's office.
Family Legal Counseling provides you with the information necessary to choose your own route. Whether the sessions are you individually, or you with your spouse, Family Legal Counseling will show you a variety of paths you and your spouse can take.